What can I do?

Help us raise awareness of financial abuse

Financial abuse in relationships is a little known issue – our customers can help by talking about the issue and raising awareness.

We need your help to raise awareness of financial abuse in relationships. Our customers can help by talking about it with friends and family and spread the word on social media. If you want to get more involved with the campaign follow the campaign on Twitter #mymoneymylife share this campaign on social media.

If you are the victim of financial abuse within a relationship, please see the “Help and resources” section below that provides further information on the experts who are able to offer help and guidance.

Refuge and the Bank have also produced a helpful guide for the victims of financial abuse in relationships: click here to download the guide, developed in partnership with Refuge.

Please note: Only make changes suggested in the guide if you can do so safely. If you think that taking any of the steps outlined in the guide might increase your risk of harm from your partner, or place another person in danger, then seek advice from a specialist domestic violence service before taking any action.

Help and resources

If you are experiencing domestic violence:

The Freephone 24 hour Domestic Violence Helpline, run in partnership by Refuge and Women’s Aid, offers a 24 hour confidential Helpline for women who are experiencing domestic violence. It provides emotional and practical support, including referrals to refuges and other local services: 0808 2000 247.

Refuge’s website provides lots of information for women experiencing domestic violence, including support on financial issues: www.refuge.org.uk

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Case study: Deborah’s story

Throughout her marriage Deborah suffered emotional abuse and severe violence from her husband.

Her husband believed he could manipulate her through money. Deborah was passionate about going to university, but when she succeeded her husband tried to put her in such a dire financial position that she would be forced to leave. When Deborah persisted, he changed the car insurance so that she couldn't drive to lectures, then booked holidays and purchased items and demand money from her.

By the end of her second year, she had a large overdraft and a student loan just to pay her fees. Her husband then contacted her university accusing her of having an affair with her lecturer, causing her many difficulties, including missing weeks due to stress and anxiety.

Deborah left after 13 years, and had four years of counselling through HARV Outreach services. She is now working on a PHD.

A full list of help organisations can be found in our downloadable guide, developed in partnership with Refuge.

You may also be able to find help locally by typing in “domestic abuse help” and your location into Google, or another online search engine.

Specialist support for men suffering from domestic violence:

  • Men's Advice Line: http://www.mensadviceline.org.uk or 0808 801 0327
  • Specialist support for those experiencing domestic violence who are lesbian, gay, bisexual or transgender:

  • Galop: www.galop.org.uk/domesticabuse/ or 0800 999 5428
  • Please note: The above links are correct as of December 2015. The details above are for information only and the Bank has no direct relationship with any of the organisations above other than Refuge.

    For more information about our campaign, go to the Why are we campaigning? page

    For more information about our campaign, go to the “Why are we campaigning?page